Saturday, September 29, 2007
Food for thought
A friend recently sent me the results of research done by the insurance industry on the incidence of transgender people in the United States. Their research concludes that there are approximately 20 million transgender people in this country and that about 400,000 of those are, like me, transsexuals (the severe end of the transgender spectrum of “gender identity disorder”).
This correlates very well with the research done by Lynn Conway from the University of Michigan finding that the incidence of transsexualism is about one in every 250 people in the United States. It supports the conclusions of Dr. Roughgarden (Harvard PhD and professor at Stanford) that transsexuals are unusual (statistical outliers) but well within the statistical definition of “normal”
So why are legal protections and societal acceptance so hard to come by? Think “women”, “blacks”, “disabled” and you will realize that the majority in power never easily accepts differences. Whether it is because they don’t want to admit that “they” are “us” too (my family, your family, our family), or because they fear a dilution of power, or just because they don’t want to acknowledge the rich diversity in God’s creation really doesn’t matter. It still hurts both society and people like me.
Sadly the one organization that should be leading the way in embracing all people (“God so loved the world”) often is the last to come to acceptance as illustrated in the church’s historic reluctance to accept blacks and see women as equal to men. Praying and working for change, Julie.
Saturday, September 1, 2007
Heros Needed
This week I had two incidents that shook me a little. At Transgender Michigan’s Pride in the Park I had three different people come up to me and tell me that I was a hero to them. Then yesterday, someone wrote to me, “Thanks again, Julie - The world has long needed a strength like you.” I don’t feel like a hero. What makes others think that? I have reached two tentative conclusions. First, every movement needs leaders who – like it or not – are perceived as heroes. Second, we need - desperately need - more heroes.
What made me a “hero”? It was a little over a year ago when I sat in a rocking chair in our living room with a handgun in my lap. I had composed an email to be sent that began with the words, “By the time you read this, I will be dead.” Then God broke through. I had a lot of friends praying for me during those very dark and difficult days. I believe their prayers saved my life. As I sat wrestling in my mind, I realized I loved my wife and kids (and grandson) too much to end my life. And in that moment I decided to not let hate and discrimination claim another victim. I chose to live and I chose to do all that I can to keep hate and discrimination ruining or ending as many other lives as I could.
So I began to tell me story and Joanne often was able to share her story as well. In God’s providence the story was told and people listened. For over a month I averaged 2-3 media interviews a weekday; including everything from student newspapers and local media to Fox News, Newsweek, and the Wall Street Journal. I was getting 80-100 emails a day from people encouraged by the story to be vocal, active, or supportive. All I did was tell my story and seek to live as authentic a life as I could. I guess that made me a hero. I don’t feel like a hero, but if that is what I am, more are needed. Want to be a hero? Tell your story and/or encourage others to tell theirs. You will be a hero . . . at least to me.
Tuesday, March 13, 2007
Settlement
Joanne and I met with an auditorium full of Eastern Michigan University students (mostly) and some faculty last night. We told our story for about 45 minutes and then answered questions for nearly an hour. Near the end of the time, a student stood up and made a statement instead of asking a question. She said, "The two of you have changed my life forever. I now have a new definition of love." Moments like that make the occasional hassles all worthwhile.
Tuesday, March 6, 2007
Mediation Update
Monday, March 5, 2007
Rules and Relationships
The first sin of mankind was giving in on a temptation to a false promise: To know good and evil; to be like God. The consequence was broken relationships with God, and lives filled with misery. Man used his newfound "wisdom" to try to judge God and his wife (don't try this at home). God gave us 10 simple rules, but we couldn't even follow those. More rules followed, and more transgressions. By the time Jesus arrives on the scene, we think we have it all figured out. Our "holiest" men, the Pharisees, tell the Son of God how it really is. Jesus breaks a number of their silly rules, and relates to people in amazing ways. Not only that, he performs miracles to bring the outcasts back in to society, and heals the relationally broken, even raising the dead.
Jesus chose the twelve brightest scribes to be his disciples, right? No. He assembled a motley crew of folks who would be with him wherever he went. 2000 years later, we have the Bible in hundreds of different languages. What reason do we have to think we can understand good and evil any better? We do have the Holy Spirit. The wonderful thing about the Holy Spirit is it guides us in our own lives, and helps us know right from wrong. It is also something we can share with others in community, but the Spirit doesn't tell us when others do wrong.
The tragedy of The Church is that it spends so much effort in trying to figure out good and evil, and not enough time living in relationships with real people. The rules in the Bible are there for a good reason. They're meant to help us in our relationships with one another and with God. They tell us how to relate. They are perfect. We, however, are not. If we are honest with ourselves, there are a lot of "rules" in the Bible that we don't understand. There are probably even more rules that we think we understand. Maybe it's time to let go of that temptation to know all good and evil. We have the Spirit to guide us on our way, and maybe that's enough. Maybe it's enough to know what is good and evil for me to do.
The situation with my father and Spring Arbor University is just one more example of a broken situation, a broken relationship. Can I point a finger at one side or the other and say "you've done this?" It would be only too easy to blame the serpent for all our tragic flaws. It isn't easy (is it possible?) to understand what God's divine law really says here (and only slightly easier to understand U.S. Law). What we can do is focus on doing something positive, mending our own broken relationships.
God, I pray that you would be with my parents, Spring Arbor University, and lawyers for both parties as they attempt to mediate tomorrow. Let your Holy Spirit guide the situation and work in these relationships. I pray that in the middle of this mess, You would receive the glory, and that Your will would be done. Amen.
Saturday, March 3, 2007
Saturday Feature: In TG Shoes - Bathrooms
Sunday, February 25, 2007
The Matter of Choice
I am DCNemesis' mom. I am the spouse of Julie for the last 34+years. I have been supportive of the transition and have had my own journey. I wrote the following essay to share some of my personal observations and thoughts about Julie's "Choice".
The Matter of Choice
There was a comment about choice in reference to being transgender. I have reflected about that over the last few days. Some thoughts came to me that helped me clarify how this might be seen as a choice to some.
Being transgender is not a choice. A growing body of evidence is showing that the condition is biological. A portion of the hypothalamus is sized differently in the transgender, matching their perceived gender. Brain wave studies show that the brain waves of the individual match their perceived gender.
I believe that most people have difficulty accepting the treatment. They see the individual making a choice to receive treatment. Yes, I would agree with that. Some individuals, who are transsexual, for a variety of reasons, decide not to pursue treatment. This comes at a tremendous cost emotionally and physically.
Let’s look at an example that is a choice but is much less emotionally charged. A person has pain, very bad pain, let’s say a headache. The pain can be dehabilitating causing an individual to lose work time and even at times go to bed. If available most people seek a remedy to get rid of the pain. They chose to take a pill to eradicate it. If the headaches are recurring often, they seek medical intervention. Some will go to great lengths to be pain free. I think we all can identify with the desire to subdue pain. But overall, there is a choice, try to live with the pain and possibly suffer some consequences or try to take something to get rid of the pain.
A transgender person lives with a different kind of pain. The pain comes from the disconnect between the body and mind. They are sending opposing messages. This causes stress. Sometimes the pain is so great that suicide seems the only way to come to a sense of peace (that is a horrible choice). Once a person discovers the reason for their feelings and hears there is something that can help them decrease the pain, they desire to follow that medical advice.
In the past, several methods were devised to try to correct the mind and make it conform to the body but they were unsuccessful and often harmful to the individual. The only method that has been show to help thus far is conforming the body to the mind.
How can we deny another person from seeking relief to their pain?
What are we feeling as individuals who interact with someone who is transgender? Are we uncomfortable because we can not put ourselves in their place? Do we misunderstand scripture and so impose our understanding upon the other person? Do we feel that is must be some kind of perversion? Are we embarrassed to be around them? Does their presentation in a gender conforming way cause us to realign our thinking about them?
I think that it is most important to delve deeply within ourselves and try to discover the reason for the objection. For myself, I had to realize that it was fear. I feared what other people would think. I feared rejection and loss of friends. I have, over time learned to face my fears and chose to love. The discomfort I felt was nothing in comparison to the deep, overwhelming pain of my spouse. I have come to realize that his “choice” to be Julie was necessary and life preserving.
Please consider how choice is an important part of life and necessary to preserve life and dignity.
Saturday, February 24, 2007
Saturday Feature: In TG Shoes
However, if we can try to understand a little bit about how it might feel, it is incumbent upon us to do. Jesus called us to weep with those who weep, and rejoice with those who rejoice. This kind of compassion starts with empathy.
This week, I thought I'd turn the tables around a bit. Instead of talking about my Dad, who is . . . "gracefully advanced" . . . I found a video on YouTube that talks about Transgendered children, and it is mainly addressed to their families. I don't know if I would take all of the recommendations that this organization suggests for raising TG children, but it is a very difficult to imagine how I would deal with it.
So, I can't say I'd fully endorse the message of this video, but it should at least make you think and feel. Also, you'll find that alot of the issues for TG children are the same as they are for adults. Enjoy the video.
Thursday, February 22, 2007
Media and Mediation
Wednesday, February 21, 2007
Is Spring Arbor More Extreme than Pat Robertson?
"Q: I have a friend that I have known since we were kids who has considered getting a sex change. Is it wrong and a sin for a person to change their sex from being male to female or from being female to male?
A: Such an option did not exist in the Bible. Nobody could ever do such a thing. It is very radical surgery. They literally change organs from male to female and vice versa. It’s pretty traumatic. And on top of that, they shoot the person full of the various hormones, either estrogen or testosterone, to make it happen. Is it a sin? I can’t say it’s a sin, because I don’t have any biblical authority one way or the other. But the Bible says wherever you were when you came to the Lord, you stay that way. I think that probably would be closer to it, what the apostle Paul said. But I can’t pontificate on this one, but I do feel sorry for those that are in that condition."
I'm not sure what verse he is trying to bring up at the end there, but I found it interesting that Pat Robertson would have a fairly moderate stance on this issue. It seems he made an effort to research the issue before he answered, and came to a very different position than Spring Arbor's so-called Biblical position.
Thursday, February 15, 2007
A Bit of Levity - What's In a Name?
What Gender or Sex is God?
I thought I'd start with the question "What Gender or Sex is God?" The question is relevant as we are made in the image of God (Genesis 1:27); called to be transformed into the likeness of His Son (Romans 8:29); and are being transformed into an image of His glory (2 Corinthians 3:18). First off, it is possible that Genesis 1:27 tells us nothing about God, as we do not know to what degree we are made in His image. We could be made in his image in terms of character, but not in our sexual or "engendered" natures of male and female. I would have some real problems accepting this view, as verse 27 itself refers specifically to male and female forms. Also, some specific verses (like 1 Corinthians 11:7) seem to draw a specific connection between sex and the image of God (although I'll be the first to admit that verse is difficult to interpret).
Excluding the possibility that our sexual natures are something not related to the image of God, we are left with two interpretations. The first (I'll call it the "Traditional" interpretation) is that God is masculine. The second possibility is that God transcends descriptions of sex and gender. The first interpretation is better supported if the Hebrew "Adam" in Genesis 1:27 is translated as "man" not as "mankind" (different translations treat this word differently). This interpretation would consider man as made in the image of a masculine God, and woman made in the image of man (not as an image of God in her own right). This also seems to be the line of logic suggested in 1 Corinthians 11. Of course, if you take this viewpoint on scripture, a number of dictums naturally come with it, such as male headship in the church. Based on the very few female clergy in the Free Methodist Church, this may very well be the position they take. Of course, then the question of "what does it mean to make ourselves transform or conform to the image of God?" becomes quite problematic. Are women supposed to be more like men to better reflect the image of God? I have heard nobody who suggests such a thing, but it seems to follow from the above logic. That is unless of course, you mean that women are supposed to be like God only in character and are doomed to inhabit a body which is not made in God's image.
The second position is that God transcends gender. If you are asking why I don't include the possibility that God is strictly feminine, it is simply that it goes against too much of what you find in Scripture to really be supported ("Our Father, who art in heaven . . . " etc.). Oddly enough, 1 Corinthians 11, which I said above seems to take the logic of the first position, also contains things which might support the second (Hey, I warned you it is hard to interpret). 1 Corinthians 11 describes God as the originator of all things, in the same way that man "originates" from (is born of) a woman. God certainly has many attributes that we might call more feminine that masculine, such as compassion and grace. If you take this view, conforming or transforming to the image of God is something that people may pursue with their whole being, whether masculine or feminine, male or female.
I'm sure some stumble over the fact that Genesis 1:27 says God created them "male and female" and that anywhere "in between" is anathema. To that, I'd say, this was a verse referring to before the fall, and now we have very hard to dispute middle grounds, like true hemaphrodism. I don't know anyone who would claim that Christ didn't die for hemaphrodites, though I'm sure there are some extremists out there. If transgenderism, is "hemaphrodism of the brain" can we not accept it at the worst as a result of the fall? At best, it might be an expression of the image of God.
Monday, February 12, 2007
Can Any Good Come of This?
This is just one instance of God using this situation to change people in a positive way. I'm inspired by this pastor's courage to face the situation with brutal honesty and integrity.
A few other points to make regarding the titular question:
1. God decides what happens in the future, we don't. As Romans 8:28 says: "God causes all things to work together for good to those who love God, to those who are called according to {His} purpose." Claiming that this situation will bring terrible things to SAU, or "the body of Christ" flies in the face of God's promise. Be careful of underestimating God's power.
2. You can only live your calling. The actions of others may be hard to understand, and even seem detrimental, but it is God who takes our sacrifices and makes them good.
3. If you find yourself in a situation that you can't find any good in, do what you can to make some. Jesus raised the dead. He turned funerals into joyful celebrations. In the Old Testament, Benaiah pursued a lion into a snowy pit and killed it. How's that for making a bad situation good?
Sunday, February 11, 2007
Going Public, or Why I Blog
If you think Spring Arbor University has taken a stance that is incorrect, publicity might help to change their minds. I assume SAU makes decisions like these with some regard for what their supporters (financial and otherwise) might think about the issue. If they have taken a position that is different than what these supporters might wish them to take, the only way for them to hear that is to make the story public. Most of those that care about this situation probably now know about it. If enough contact SAU, they may choose to moderate their stance and be more open to a reasonable mediation (even a reinstatement?), preventing this from having to go to court. Of course, many people will not make up their minds immediately upon hearing about the story. Those open-minded individuals will want to hear from different perspectives. That is what this blog is about: having a discussion.
In revealing this story to the press, some activist groups may try to claim that this story in fact supports their cause. This is what activist groups do. They spin a story and try and use it to further their own cause. Honestly, I think many activists have tried to spin this story to support their cause against the facts at hand. For instance, my father is not gay. We can't stop an activist group from doing what they will with the story, but we can be true to the facts of the case, and state how we view the issue in situations like this. The point of going public is not to rile up activist groups, but to hopefully further understanding and allow open-minded people to decide on the facts. Activist groups are pretty close-minded, so there is really no purpose in trying to have a discussion with them.
The anonymous poster noted that (paraphrasing) "it is easy to make scripture say what you want it to." I agree that there are ways of "proof-texting" for many arguments, but that is far from being a "Biblical stance." Acceptable methods for interpreting scripture will not look at a single verse, but also the verse in relation to other verse which might address the issue. When you look at all the verse that might apply, you may find you still can reach different conclusions. If the Bible does not decide an issue, we as Christians may take different viewpoints, but we should be gracious with those who disagree. There are many things that are "non-essentials" in the Christian faith, and I'd put whether it is acceptable to wear jewelry or not in the same category.
Another side note: I've seen more anonymous commentors then I typically do on other blogs. That's okay. I understand that this is a difficult issue to talk about, and I hope the ability to comment anonymously allows more to participate in this discussion. If possible, though, I'd ask that anonymous commentors use some way of differentiating themselves from the other anonymous commentors, so that we know you're not really all the same person.
Saturday, February 10, 2007
CitPat Runs Follow-up Article
Thursday, February 8, 2007
Things Get Ugly at the Extremes
The first is the "MadPriest," an Anglican priest from England. He posts the article from the CitPat with the heading "Today's Complete and Utter Bastards Are: Spring Arbor University." From perusing his blog, I think he is intentionally over the top, but I don't think it is helpful to having a reasonable discussion. I appreciate his support for my Father, but I don't think he has to bash fellow Christians to do it.
The second may be worse than the first. This one comes from the superintendant of the southern Michigan conference of the Free Methodist Church, Pastor Tom Ramundo. He tries to tar my father by association in noting that the whole thing "seems very carefully orchestrated" to advance the gay agenda. My dad's not gay, and he'll be the first to tell you there is a difference between being transgender and being gay (or maybe he'd be the second to tell you, and my mom the first, I'm not sure which). The article continues to quote him: "I know that university really well, and I know its leadership," he says. "I am sure they have endeavored to treat him in a redemptive way." The Free Methodist superintendent describes the situation as "just one of those issues where there’s that tension between love and purity, and the school’s just finally having to take a strong biblical stand." Of course, he doesn't say what makes this position "biblical" (they continue to be silent about what the Bible has to say about things). It just seems very arrogant and reckless to me placing his confidence in his personal relationships with the walking saints that apparently govern Spring Arbor. The facts: they told him to lie; kept him from relating with his fellow colleagues; and did everything they could to keep him out of sight. I don't see how this is meant to be redemptive. I could go on about the attrocities commited in the name of "purity" but that might be unfairly lumping someone together with something they are obviously not, and I'm trying to avoid that.
The Legal Side of Things
Of course, I'm not the only one with a legal opinion. A Conservative blogger at HumanEvents.com claims that if my father's claim is upheld it would "be a serious blow to freedoms of religion and association." He seems misinformed in some areas, often confusing "sex" and "gender" and resorts to hyperbole to try and prove his point. I don't know if I should even take this blogger seriously, but their claims that upholding my Father's claim would harm freedom of religion and association seem to turn the situation on its head. The University forced my father to accept a contract that restricted his religious freedom, freedom of association, and freedom of speech. Overturning that contract does not "damage" freedom, it restores it.
Radio interview
Wednesday, February 7, 2007
Dr. Jen
SELMA, CALIF. ‹ I am a medical doctor with 26 years of experience in Family Practice and Obstetrics. I also have a special expertise in treating those with Gender Identity Disorder. GID is a medical problem ‹ a congenital disorder in which centers of the brain that determine our "gender identity" develop in the fetus in a manner opposite to the chromosomal sex and the anatomy of the rest of the body. Though many are successful in their lives, driven for decades to prove to others and themselves that they are "normal," this process extracts a mental-emotional toll that cannot be maintained indefinitely. When those with GID reach their crisis point (often in their 30s to 50s), they can no longer continue living a facade contrary to their "true self." They must either "transition" to their true (mental) gender, under the care of medical and psychological professionals, or end up in a severe depression which often results in suicide. The phrase we use for this crisis is "Transition or Die.²"
Unfortunately,most of those who transition that also have a strong church background are frequently brutalized by their very own churches, to which they have long attended and contributed over many years. It is astounding to see that their pastors and so-called Christian brothers and sisters, who should exemplify the love and compassion of Jesus, turn against them in this difficult period of transition. There is nothing in the Bible that would condemn anyone suffering from GID for utilizing the only means (including hormones and surgery) available to bring wholeness to a mind-body incongruity that has caused them decades of suffering. To equate GID with immorality or sexual perversion makes no more sense that to state that all who suffer from seizures are "demon-possessed" just because one boy healed from epilepsy by Jesus was afflicted by an evil spirit.
Jennifer A. Burnett, MD
Associate Professor of Medicine UCSF-Fresno,
Teaching Faculty Fresno Family Practice Residency